Can the birth mother choose the adoptive parents?

Yes. Bado and Bado provides confidential portfolio books sent by prospective adoptive parents for the birth mother to review and consider. Adoptive parents are subjected to an intensive home study process that includes federal and state background checks, numerous home visits, medical reports, references from people who have known the family for several years and verification of the application information. The portfolio books contain information about the adoptive parents’ home, family involvement, hobbies or outside interests, including pictures of other family members, and even beloved pets. The birth mother may speak with the adoptive parents by telephone, or a meeting will be arranged through the attorney’s office.
Bado and Bado will search until the birth mother is satisfied with her choice of the adopting parents.

Why would I choose to place my child for adoption?

There are many reasons why a woman might choose adoption for her child’s future. No doubt, you are scared and uncertain about how to handle your unplanned pregnancy. You may be feeling sad, lost and overwhelmed. This is a normal response to your situation.
The birth father may not be around or is not supportive of the pregnancy. You may be raising other children and know that you cannot take on the role of raising another child. You may be struggling to pay bills without the added expenses of a child. The reason for placement is an unique as each individual’s life story.

How can I handle my feelings of disappointment?

The adoption worker can help you sort out your reasons to place the child for adoption with solid facts and reasoning based on your situation. You may also choose to see a licensed professional counselor to discuss other matters.

Do the prospective adoptive parents have to live in Oklahoma?

No. Bado and Bado works with adopting parents all across the United States.

Does the birth mother have to pay legal fees and expenses?

No.  All legal fees and expenses and uncovered medical expenses are paid for by the adopting parents.

Can the birth mother see the baby after it is born at the hospital?

Yes. The birth mother determines how much contact she would like to have with the baby during the hospital stay. Some birth mothers want time with the baby, while other birth mothers prefer limited or no contact and want the adopting parents to be hands-on caregiver.

Does the birth mother receive updates from the adoptive parents after the baby is adopted?

Yes. If the birth mother and adoptive parents have mutually agreed to updates, the adoptive parents can provide letters and/or pictures through the Bado and Bado office. Ongoing updates are determined by the individuals involved through mutual agreement.

Can the birth mother see the child after placement?

If the birth mother and adoptive parents agree that it is in the child’s best interest after the child is placed for adoption, then Bado and Bado could coordinate those meeting(s).

Are any court appearances required?

Yes.  The birth mother must appear in court to give her consent before the Judge who is assigned to the case. The Court date is scheduled a few days after your discharge from the hospital.  You will have your own legal counsel to go over the legal papers with you before seeing the Judge. You should have had counseling so that you are aware of your rights and the consequences of signing the relinquishment prior to your Court date.

What about the birth father? Does he have to agree to the adoption?

Each situation is different. We would like to explain this when we talk with you. He may not be required to sign any documents.

Does the baby go to a foster home?

No. The baby goes directly from the hospital to the adoptive parents’ and their home.

Can I place my baby who is already born, or an older child?

Yes. Our adoptive parents have completed the required adoption home study process and are approved by the Court for immediate placement of an infant or older child in their home.

Why do birth mothers make adoption plans for their children?

Birth mothers make this difficult sacrifice because they love their children, and want more for them than they are able to provide. They are motivated by a desire to ensure a loving and happy home for their children. It is a difficult decision. This decision puts the child’s welfare first and foremost.